Sis, Wake up! Stop Wasting Your Time: Why Success Isn’t Working for You (And How to Fix It!)
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Sis, Let’s Talk Truth
Let me guess: You’re doing all the things right? Hustling hard, reading all the motivational quotes, maybe even waking up at 5 a.m. like those influencers told you. And yet… something feels off.
You’re busy, but you’re not productive. You’re moving, but not in the direction you truly want to go.
Sounds familiar? Sis, you’re not alone.
Success isn’t working for you because you’re chasing the wrong version of success—someone else’s definition, not yours.
But don’t worry, we’re about to fix that today. Grab your coffee, and let’s dive in.
Consider this your official wake-up call.
Why Success Isn’t Working For You?
You’re Living by Someone Else’s Blueprint
If you’re version of success looks like an Instagram feed instead of your own vision, then we have a problem. Social media is great for inspiration, but it can also trick you into thinking that success equals:
— The fancy car
— The picture-perfect home office
— A highlight reel with zero struggles
Here’s the truth: success isn’t a one-size-fits-all. What matters is what you want. If you’ve been grinding for things that don’t actually fulfill you, you’ll always feel empty.
Real-life example: Think about how many people went to college for careers they didn’t even like because everyone said, “That’s where the money is.” And now, they’re miserable in jobs they hate. Don’t let that be you.
You’re Busy, Not Productive
Sis, let’s be real. There’s a difference between being busy and being productive.
— Busy means: You’re answering emails, scrolling on Pinterest for “inspiration”, and making lists you never complete.
— Productive means: You’re taking intentional steps that move you closer to your goals.
If you’re exhausted but not seeing results, chances are you’re stuck in the busy trap. And here’s the kicker: being busy feels good because it makes you feel important, but it doesn’t guarantee progress.
You Have Goals, But No Plan
Let’s talk about the elephant in the room: you can’t manifest success by vibes alone.
Faith without works is dead, remember? Writing down “I want to be successful” isn’t enough. You need a roadmap that breaks big goals into small, actionable steps.
This is where most people fall short. They dream big but skip the planning part. And then they wonder why they feel stuck.
Pro tip: Stop winging it. Start planning it. That’s why I created God. Goals. Grind. Goal-Setting Planner - it takes you from vision to victory by helping you
✔ Set goals rooted in faith and clarity.
✔ Break them into practical steps.
✔ Stay consistent with monthly action plans.
Your Mindset is Holding You Back
Sis, let’s talk mindset. You can have all the planners in the world, but if you don’t believe you can achieve your goals, you won’t. Period.
Many women operate from a fixed mindset without even realizing it. You think:
— “I’m just not good at this.”
— “Success works for them, not for me.”
— “I’ll never have the discipline to change.”
Sound familiar? That’s your fixed mindset talking. But here’s the good news: you can shift to a growth mindset by challenging those beliefs and replacing them with empowering thoughts.
You’re Consuming More Than You’re Applying
This one might sting a little, so I’ll hold your hand for this one. How many self-improvement books have you read this year?
How many of those lessons have you actually applied?
Information without application = stagnation.
You don’t need another book collecting dust on your shelf.
You need a system that helps you turn knowledge into action. That’s why I designed the Chapters of Growth Reading Journal - a digital journal that helps you:
✔ Capture key takeaways from your self-improvement books.
✔ Create action steps based on what you learn.
✔ Reflect on your progress and growth.
This way, you don’t read for inspiration - you read for transformation.
How to Fix It (Your Success Makeover plan)
Now that we know why success isn’t working for you, let’s flip the script and make it work. Here’s how:
Step 1: Define Success on Your Terms
Take a minute to journal your answers to these questions:
What does success look like for ME ( not Instagram)?
How do I want to feel when I achieve it?
What areas of life matter most right now (career, family, faith, health)?
Clarity is the first step toward confidence. When you know where you’re going, the path becomes clearer.
Step 2: Audit Your Time
Track your day for a week. Where are you spending your time?
Be honest. If you’re spending 3 hours a day on TikTok but saying you don’t have time for your goals, we need to reevaluate.
Pro tip: Swap 30 minutes of scrolling for 30 minutes of intentional reading or strategic planning. Small changes create big results.
Step 3: Make a Plan and Commit
This is where my God. Goals. Grind. Goal-Setting Planner becomes your best friend. It helps you:
✔ Set faith-based goals.
✔ Break them into bite-sized actions.
✔ Stay on track with actionable tools.
Because success isn’t about doing everything. It’s about doing the right things consistently.
Step 4: Apply What You Learn
Stop being a professional learner and start being an action-taker. When you read self-improvement books, don’t just highlight them - implement them. Use the Chapters of Growth Reading Journal to:
✔ Note your insights.
✔ Turn those insights into real-life steps.
✔ Reflect on the results so you can adjust and grow.
Step 5: Book Recommendations
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey
This classic focuses on intentional living, prioritization, and building habits that create real success—perfect for women who feel stuck in survival mode and need a mindset and system shift.
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck
Reframe your mindset because motivation isn’t enough. This book explains how shifting from a fixed to a growth mindset changed everything about achieving goals.
Step 6: Protect Your Mindset
Feed your mind with positivity, prayer, and affirmations daily. When doubt creeps in, remind yourself: I am capable. I am worthy. I am becoming the best version of me.
It’s Time to Stop Playing Small
Sis, success isn’t out of reach, and you don’t need permission to start. It’s waiting for you to get aligned, get intentional, and get moving.
Success rewards those who create momentum, who take action even when they’re scared, who refuse to let fear or doubt hold them back.
Want to cultivate a mindset that attracts success? Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Challenges aren’t roadblocks; they’re opportunities in disguise.
They’re proof that you’re growing, stretching, better yet, evolving.
So instead of avoiding them, lean in. Be flexible, be adaptable, and trust that every challenge is shaping you into the woman you’re meant to be.
Perfection, you ask? Overrated.
Action, you say? Well, that’s where the magic happens.
Wake Up and Start Winning Your Way!
No more chasing someone else’s dream. No more spinning your wheels. This is YOUR season.
And you don’t have to do it alone. Grab the tools that will help you win:
➜ Get your God. Goals. Grind. Goal-Setting Planner here - because your goals deserve structure, faith, and focus.
➜ Get your Chapters of Growth Reading Journal here - because growth happens when you apply what you learn.
Remember: Success isn’t just about grinding; it’s about growing.
And we both know you’re capable of amazing things.
Go ahead. Take the first step.
Your future self is already cheering for you!
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“You can waste your life drawing lines. Or you can live your life crossing them.”
- Shonda Rhiimes
